How wonderful that at last a Commitment Ceremony between two
people of the same gender can enable them to publicly declare
their love for one another. And what a beautiful moment it can
be! It may be a simple occasion or a more elaborate celebration
that embodies the love of these two people. Over the years I
have officiated at perhaps 20 Commitment ceremonies.
But a Commitment Ceremony can also be a Promise of Love between
a couple who for some reason are not able to be legally married.
Many de facto couples have been together for many years, and
there sometimes comes a time that the couple wish to formalize
their relationship before family and friends with a Commitment
Ceremony. This is a perfect way of recognizing that relationship
before the world.
Welcoming a new soul into our family, changes us forever. This
is wonderful ceremony as it acknowledges not on the child but
also all of those people who have been, and will be, involved in
the child’s life, be they Parents, Godparents (Yes you can still
call them that even if this is not a Religious ceremony),
Grandparents, and extended family as well as friends. There are
countless ways of celebrating that this precious little person
is now formally welcomed, be it with a Candle Lighting, a Time
Capsule, the reading of Poems and even Music. When other
children are involved, this adds to the joy of the day, as for
many it is the first formal occasion that these children will
attend, and they delight in the mystery of the Creation of this
little one, as well as the adults.
Naming for Christopher – Angelo’s on the Bay, Sydney 2010.
I had officiated for parents’ wedding and Jack’s Naming in Port
Douglas 2 years before.
As we grow together with our partner we often find that we need
to formally reinforce those bonds that initially bound us
You may have raised a family and now there is another threshold
to discover and a new life to embark upon, so why not celebrate
this time by inviting family and friends - for a Renewal of Vows
in celebrating our life and achievements.
It may even be a private celebration of your love between just
the two of you at sunset or sunrise. You may have faced
adversity and overcome it and now wish to celebrate moving
forward into a new phrase. Others may have missed out on having
a loving group of people around at their initial wedding for
whatever reason – elopement, small overseas wedding for the sake
of formality, or for financial or family reasons. So now you can
choose to gather in those who mean so much to you, to allow
them, and you, together, to celebrate the love and the life you
have happily had.
TOGETHER or BLENDING OF TWO FAMILIES:
Today it is not unusual for families to be blended. Sometimes
the parents of each family wish to reinforce the love they have
for the children of both sides, whether they live as one family
or spend time away from each other. A ceremony that involves all
the children is often a great help in the recognition that each
individual is loved and a part of the combined Family Circle.
A ceremony that culminates in the signing of Family Unity
Certificate is often the catalyst that breaks down the barriers
and draws the circle together. It is important here though to
not take away from the ‘other’ parent’s role as a loving and
important person in the child’s or children’s lives, so they
should be consulted. This ceremony is not a Formal or Legal
binding, so is no threat to anyone family’s stability.